The Narcissist Parent attempts to be the kids’ best friend instead of the responsible parent. They will take extraordinary steps to become the favorite parent. It often would mean allowing children to do as they please and spoiling them.
The narcissist often tries to alienate the other parent. They usually select activities that do not include the entirety of the family, and instead, they ask the children to decide with which parent they wish to spend their time. They completely disregard the psychological damage done to children when they have to choose between their parents. To lessen this pressure, the responsible parent often gives their approval for children to spend time with the narcissist. Ultimately this parent becomes alienated.
The narcissistic parent will always find faults with the other parent and will try to belittle them. This intended disrespect is often loud and repeats daily. For instance, the narcissit claims to be the better cook, the more fun parent, and the one making more money. Sadly, frequently there is no truth to these claims. Nevertheless, to keep the peace, the other parent often veers from arguing against these accusations. The narcissistic parent will always have a fundamental need to prove that they are the better parent.
The narcissistic parent always has an excuse not to deal with daily issues that matter in their children’s life. Whether it be disciplinary, behavioral, or health issues, this parent will always find an excuse to delegate the task to the other parent. After resolving the problem, the same responsible parent often gets blamed for mishandling the situation. Of course, the narcissist could have done a better job!
So what do you do with the narcissist in your life? there is really no clear solution. As for me, I just ignore the comments. I have learned that as the children grow they too see the pattern and the narcissist ultimately becomes the pathetic and the insecure parent.