Parental Alienation is a method used by the Narcissistic Parents who manipulates their children to have no respect and apathy towards the targeted parent. In the process the manipulative parent often creates a situation where the child develops disrespect and lack of emotion towards the co-parent. Some methods used by the narcissist to alliniate the co- parent is by consistently siding with the child when their child refuses to behave or act responsibly. For instance a child may refuse to do their homework and the manipulative parent will side with the child and tell them it is ok to just do a mediocre job; or that the other parent does not know what they are doing and they disdain the targeted parent. Often the narcissist succeds to manipulate the children into believing that thedecision making ability of the co – parent is flawed and that they lack proper judgment.
Here are some steps you can take to stop this manipulative behavior.
1. Do not take it personal when your child starts acting like that towards you. It is really not their fault. Confront them about how you feel but remain firm in your values. Let them know that you are still an equal parent and you expect the same attention and respect.
2. Maintain your composure. You always have a choice on how you can react to your child’s reaction to you. Maintain your integrity and understand that you are the adult and still in charge. Try to calm the storm. Remember that the Narcissistic parent who is doing all the manipulations, is looking to see you become triggered just so that he can prove themselves right.
3. Do not use the counter offensive technique and try to prove that the other parent is wrong or try to bad mouth the Narcissistic parent. This proves exactly what the Narcissistic parent wants: To falsely accuse the target parent.Share your perspective with the child and share with them how their actions hurt your feelings. The child will understand eventually that it is not ok to be manipulated as such.